Why Clarity Matters

Have you ever called to order take out and said, "Hey, just cook me up something good!" Or, closed your eyes and clicked blindly on your Amazon app, adding something, anything to your cart and just hoping for the best?

Of course not!!! How frustrating would that be for both parties! So, instead, when you place an order, you get specific. You get clear. You ask for what you want, you don't just cross your fingers and see what happens.

This kind of clarity matters in life, too. We are constantly creating. Look around you... what do you see? Is it a life you love? Or one that you're barely tolerating?

What order did you put into the Universe or God or whatever, if anything, you call it? Were you clear? Or maybe you've only been asking for what you DON'T want. Uh oh. Bet you've been getting more of it.

You see, we're constantly, but not always consciously, creating our life experience. Maybe because we never learned how so we've just been flinging wishes and hoping some of them land and come back to us.

When we learn how to consciously create, we learn to get clear and specific about what we want in our lives. We learn how to put our attention on those things so that we get more of them... whether it's peace and calm, deeper relationships, a bigger home, self-confidence, a work environment that feeds our creativity, etc...

You can have anything (humanly possible) in your life and only to the extent that you are clear on what that is.

At Radiant Happiness: 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm - A Free Masterclass, we'll begin this process of clarity so that you can be more purposeful in what you create in your life.

You deserve a life you love. Your desires are in your heart for a reason - they're waiting for you. You simply need to learn how to place your order so that what you want shows up.

#clarity #consciouscreation #manifestation #createalifeyoulovenow #freemasterclass #RadiantHappiness

It's My Anniversary!

10 years ago, yesterday, I landed back on US soil and opened to new possibilities. My 3 young kids and I came home for a visit after 2 years in the UK. My then-husband stayed in England to work and though it was rare for me to travel without him, I fought for this trip. I knew I needed it.

It was supposed to be a 3-week visit. After a few days, I noticed myself beginning to relax, smile, and laugh more. I realized that these people who told me they loved me also treated me like they loved me. It felt good. Really good. With thousands of miles between me and my controlling, emotionally abusive husband of 15 years, I discovered that I wasn't as stuck as I thought... I could make different choices, reclaim my voice, and heal my relationship with myself.

And that’s just what I did. Day by day, week by week, with tools and support to create lasting change in my life, and in my well-being, I healed. You can, too.

Want to hear more of my story? How I moved from miserable and stuck to being one of the happiest people I know? Join me for a free masterclass on August 19th - Radiant Happiness - 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm!

No matter where you are or what you're feeling today, it's possible to create a life you love, now. Click Going and then the link to officially register and you're IN!!

#radianthappiness #innerease #calm #confidence #clarity #alifeyoulovenow

3 Words to Release from Your Vocabulary...

I love words. They're powerful. We create our internal and external experience through the words we use every day. I know this, so I'm picky with the words I choose to use and when working with clients, I help them see the weight they're adding to their shoulders and the commitments they're making to their future through the use of their language.

There are 3 words, specifically, that I invite you to release from your vocabulary starting right now.

Let's break it down.

Should - Please don't should on yourself. "Should" adds more pressure, more stress, and when used in reflection (as in, "what I should have done"), it creates an internal discord. The past is past. We can't change it and as Byron Katie says, "When we argue with reality, we lose, and only 100% of the time."

Instead of "should" use more empowering words like, "want," or for bonus points, "choose."

Feel the difference:

• I should be doing something productive!

• I want to be doing something productive.

• I choose to do something productive.

  Being at choice gives you the power, feels lighter, and allows you to take creative control of your life instead of weighing yourself down with shoulds.
  

Always & Never
The words “always” and “never” are commitments; promises to the future that disallow change. For example, “I always make the wrong choice,” or “I’m never good enough,” or “My relationships always fail, “or I never get what I want.”

We are always creating and the words we use are like our Amazon orders, but to the Universe. When we use always or never, we’re telling Source (or whatever you call it) that we want things to stay the same.

Instead, try to adopt more flexible language that allows for growth and change. For instance:

• "I often make thoughtful choices."

• "I'm improving my self-worth every day."

• "I'm learning to cultivate successful relationships."

• "I am open to receiving what I desire."

Notice how these statements shift your mindset from a fixed state to one of growth and potential. This opens the door for new opportunities and experiences to enter your life. You become a conscious creator, instead of an unconscious pattern-repeater. 

The words we choose influence our thoughts, emotions, and actions. By consciously selecting language that empowers us, we can transform our internal and external experiences, lighten our emotional load, and create a life aligned with our deepest desires and values; we can create a life we love now. 

Try noticing and replacing those 3 words with some of the suggestions above for a week or two. Pay attention to how you feel as you do so. Notice what changes or unfolds in your life - your energy, your mood, even changes in your relationships.

Words are magical and every word is a choice. Make yours wisely.

#language #consciouscreation #createalifeyoulovenow #coaching #wellbeing #authenticpositivity #radianthappiness

Are You Busy Wasting Time and Energy?

For the last 3 months I’ve been trying to solve an issue with my website’s pop-up/newsletter sign-up. I had two different pop-ups, two different newsletter sign-ups, and two different lists!!! Every time I sat down to write a newsletter, I tried again to figure out how to get rid of the one that was no longer serving my needs. Yet, no matter what I did or where I looked, it still popped up.

Now, I’m a smart cookie and I can usually figure things out. But I couldn’t seem to manage this one. So, finally, my partner walked into my office at just the right time. He’s well-versed in code and building or fixing websites. I mentioned this problem to him weeks ago, but never actually asked for him to look at it for me. Until that moment. 15-minutes later, my problem was solved.

15-minutes. After months of wasting my time and energy in an area that is not my expertise, he fixes it in 15-minutes.

Sometimes, we have to come to terms with the fact that we can’t do it all alone. Sometimes, we really do need to call in an expert. Like with websites… or happiness.

How many of you have spent years trying to manage your stress or think more positively, or simply be happier? Yet, year after year the same struggles pop up, defeating you and keeping you stuck.

Maybe it’s time for you to call in an expert.

I have a client, we’ll call her Lisa. Lisa came to me after years, decades even, of struggling with low self-esteem, holding onto and blaming events in the past for her present unhappiness, and anxiety around change. Not unusual, but definitely hurting her on a daily basis and hindering any possibility of the inner peace and well-being that is authentic happiness.

She called in an expert and in just months she was handling life better, coping with change more easily, and feeling better about herself. In a year, her happiness *score went from 37 - which is extremely low and essentially translates to having little or no experience of happiness in life - to 71!!! Which means having a “good measure” of happiness in her life!!! One year!!!

Imagine what your life could feel like one year from now? My clients notice the effects of learning and practicing new habits of happiness within days of starting coaching with me and in months their experience of life is transformed. They have more confidence, better sleep, deeper relationships, and are generally happier.

The path to greater joy, peace, and wellbeing isn’t necessarily easy and we aren’t taught how to “do” happiness… but it is a skill that can be learned. I would love to be the expert you hire to cut your time from problem identified to problem solved down to a fraction of the time that you could do it yourself!

Ready to experience more peace, ease, and joy in 2024? Let’s chat. My 9-month Radiant Happiness Rebirthed Group Coaching Program kicks off this month!!! Book a call with me to see if it’s a good fit for you and know that with effort, commitment, and expert guidance, a happier life is just around the corner.

* Every client I work with takes a Happiness Assessment to “score” their general level of happiness at the beginning and end of their coaching packages.