Why You Still Feel Stressed… Even When Nothing Is “Wrong”

There was a time when stress had a clear beginning, middle, and end.

You saw the threat — a saber-toothed tiger, for example — and your body responded instantly. Heart rate up. Breath quickened. Muscles engaged. You ran, fought, or escaped… and then, once you were safe, your body completed the cycle. The adrenaline and cortisol moved through you. You shook it off. You returned to baseline.

Stress resolved.

But today?

The “threat” might be an email from your boss asking for a meeting.
A text that feels off.
A conversation you’re avoiding.

And instead of moving that stress through the body… we sit.

We think.
We analyze.
We override.
We push the feelings down and keep going.

And the body?

It never gets the message that it’s safe.

So the stress cycle stays open.

That lingering tension in your shoulders…
The low-level anxiety…
The exhaustion even when you’ve “done nothing”…

It’s not in your head.
It’s in your nervous system.

What Happens When the Stress Cycle Completes

When the body is given the chance to complete the stress response, everything shifts.

Your breath deepens.
Your muscles soften.
Your mind clears.
Your energy returns.

You feel:

• More grounded

• More present

• More like yourself

Not because you “figured it out” —
but because your body finally exhaled.

This Is the Work We’ll Be Doing at Radiance Rising

At the retreat, we’re not just talking about stress — we’re gently guiding your body through the process of releasing it.

Through:

• Breathwork that signals safety

• Movement that allows energy to move and discharge

• Restorative and yin yoga paired with Reiki

• Time in nature, which naturally regulates the nervous system

• Sound healing that helps settle and integrate

This is how the body remembers how to come back to calm.

Not by forcing.
Not by pushing.
But by allowing.

🌿 Early Bird Ends in 2 Days

If your body is craving this kind of reset, I want you to listen to that.

For the next 2 days, you can save $300 on your spot at Radiance Rising.

This isn’t just a weekend away.
It’s a chance to finally exhale.

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Where Does Unresolved Trauma Live?

Unresolved trauma doesn’t just live in your past.

It lives in your body.

It shows up as:

• That hip pain you’ve been dealing with for years
• The GI discomfort that no diet seems to fix
• The tight shoulders, the clenched jaw, the shallow breath
• The exhaustion… even when you’ve “done nothing”
• The short fuse that makes you think, “Where did that come from?”

Your body is not betraying you.

It’s communicating with you.

For so many women—especially the ones who are strong, capable, used to holding it all together—your body has been carrying what you haven’t had the space (or safety) to process.

And over time… it starts to speak louder.

Not to punish you.
But to get your attention.

Here’s the part that changes everything:

Healing doesn’t start in your head.
It starts by gently coming back into your body.

So what does that actually look like?

It looks like intentional, supportive movement that allows stored tension and emotion to rise up… and release.

It looks like slowing down—putting your phone away, stepping out of the noise—and giving yourself your own full attention again. Feet on the ground. Breath in your body. Letting the earth hold what you’re ready to let go of.

It looks like simple, loving mindset shifts and breath practices that help your nervous system finally exhale… so you can feel safe enough to soften.

And it looks like spaciousness.

Time to pause.
To reflect.
To rest.
To integrate what’s been living beneath the surface for so long.

This is the experience we create inside the Radiance Rising Retreat.

Not rushed.
Not overwhelming.
But deeply supportive, gentle… and real.

If your body has been whispering—or shouting—for your attention…

This is your invitation to listen.

And to give yourself something different.

Join us. 💛 Email me with Q's about accommodation options, payment plans, or head right over and reserve your spot. 

My Working Definition of Happiness...

What do I mean by “happiness”? Let me tell you…

How do you define “Happiness” I’m sharing mine here. Then, I’m going even deeper with a free Masterclass on Tuesday, August 19th at 5:30pm EST. Will you join me?

You know what else, I honestly feel that some of us go through what we go through specifically to be able to help from a place of experience.

• I know what it's like to be deeply uncomfortable being me.

• I know what it's like to want to escape my life.

• I know what it's like to feel stuck and hopeless.

And I know what it's like for life to feel ho-hum. Ok-enough. Survivable.

AND. I know what it's like to feel joy every day.

I know what it's like to have my heart overflow through my eyes with tears of gratitude for the life I am living.

I know what it's like to LOVE, wholeheartedly, the woman that I see everyday in the mirror.

I know what it's like to mirror this love and reflect back to you what is perhaps dormant inside of you, but ready to be rebirthed.

If it's possible for me, it's possible for you. Let's up level your happiness, your peace and wellbeing, your ease of being, and your confidence.

Register. Let's do this, my loves.

Tamara

#createalifeyoulovenow #InnerCalm #clarity #confidence #wellbeing #joy #purpose #radianthappiness #masterclass

Green is the Color of St. Patrick's Day AND the Heart Chakra!

Happy St. Patrick's Day!

I've been wearing green for days—not just because I love the color, but because it represents the heart chakra, the home of love, connection, and emotional freedom.

For much of my life, I kept my heart guarded. I kept my emotions locked away, believing that was the way to protect myself. It felt safer not to feel too deeply, not to open myself too much, not to risk being hurt. Vulnerability felt unsafe and scary.

As a child, I learned that "strong" meant keeping my emotions in check. As a young woman, I loved deeply but never got too close. And as a married adult, I built walls around my heart, shielding myself from disappointment and pain.

But when I finally chose to leave my marriage, I realized that true strength wasn’t about keeping my heart closed—it was about having the courage to open it. Step by step, day by day, I began the practice of allowing love in. Not just romantic love, but love in all its forms: love for myself, love for others, love for life itself.

Even now, it’s still a practice. Letting my heart remain open, choosing vulnerability, embracing the messy, beautiful experience of love—it isn’t always easy. But like any muscle, the heart only grows stronger when we use it.

Understanding the Heart Chakra

The heart chakra, or Anahata, is the energetic center of love, compassion, and connection. Located at the center of the chest, it bridges the gap between the lower and upper chakras, integrating our physical and spiritual selves. When balanced, we experience deep love, inner peace, and meaningful relationships. When blocked, we may struggle with trust, fear intimacy, or feel emotionally closed off.

Signs of an Imbalanced Heart Chakra

• A blocked or overactive heart chakra can manifest in different ways:

• Emotional Guarding – Struggling to be vulnerable or trust others.

• Fear of Rejection – Avoiding deep connections out of fear of being hurt.

• People-Pleasing – Giving too much while neglecting your own needs.

• Resentment & Grudges – Holding onto past pain, unable to forgive.

• Physical Symptoms – Tightness in the chest, heart issues, or poor circulation.

Opening & Healing Your Heart

To restore balance and awaken the power of love, try these practices:

1. Practice Vulnerability with Safe People

Opening your heart doesn’t mean letting just anyone in. Start small. Share your thoughts, feelings, and desires with those who have earned your trust. Vulnerability is a skill that grows with practice.

2. Cultivate Self-Love

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone and is a reflection for the depth you'll experience in all others. Speak kindly to yourself. Honor your needs. Engage in activities that bring you joy. Love always starts from within.

3. Breathe Into Your Heart Space

Try heart-centered breathing: Inhale deeply, imagining green light filling your chest. Exhale, releasing tension and emotional blockages. This simple practice helps soften and open the heart chakra.

4. Let Go of Past Wounds

Forgiveness isn’t about excusing the past—it’s about releasing yourself from its grip. Whether it’s forgiving others or yourself, release the pain and resentment so love can flow freely... this one may require daily repetition for awhile!

5. Connect with Nature

Spending time in nature, especially surrounded by green landscapes, can help rebalance the heart chakra. Walk barefoot on the grass, breathe in fresh air, and allow yourself to feel connected to the world around you.

6. Affirmations & Gratitude

Use affirmations to invite more love into your life:

I am open to giving and receiving love.

My heart is strong, yet open and free.

I choose love over fear.

Love is Strength

Keeping your heart closed may seem safer, but true strength comes from the courage to love fully and freely. When you embrace the gifts of your heart, you invite more joy, deeper connections, and a life that you love!

How might you choose love today?

#Reiki can help clear energies and remove blockages!!! Why not book a session with me today Body Language Fitness & Yoga Center

#stpatricksday #chakras #energyhealing #heartenergy

Give Yourself the Gift of Transformation!

Your Life is Calling for a Radiant Reset

Imagine yourself standing under a canopy of twinkling Michigan stars, the warmth of a crackling bonfire on your skin, and the cool evening breeze carrying away the old stories you’ve clung to for far too long. As the flames dance higher, something shifts inside you—a spark, a lightness, a sense of yes, this is it. You’ve just taken the first step toward a brighter, bolder, more radiant you.

Welcome to the Radiant Happiness Retreat: where transformation meets joy, and deep work meets a whole lot of FUN. This May, we’re gathering in one of Michigan’s most serene settings for a weekend designed to help you release what’s been holding you back, reconnect with your truest self, and reignite a life that feels deeply, deliciously yours.

Why a retreat, you ask? Because life gets busy, noisy, and a little (or a lot) overwhelming. And sometimes, the only way to hear your own heart again is to step away and create space for it to speak. This is more than a weekend escape; it’s an invitation to come home to yourself.

What’s Waiting for You at the Radiant Happiness Retreat?

Let’s start with the magic. Over four unforgettable days, you’ll:

• Let go of old, limiting beliefs (watch them go up in smoke—literally—at our bonfire).

• Discover powerful tools for lasting transformation.

• Immerse yourself in yoga, meditation, and mindful nature walks—all surrounded by Michigan’s stunning springtime beauty.

• Laugh, connect, and feel seen in a community of incredible, like-hearted women.

• Leave with clarity, confidence, and a heart so full, you’ll practically glow.

And while we’re doing deep work, we’ll also have fun (because let’s face it: joy is part of the healing). Think heartfelt conversations around the fire pit or in the pool, savoring lunch on a deck with nature’s best backdrop, and moments of pure, unfiltered you.

The Journey, Day by Day

Thursday: Step Into the Circle
We kick things off at 10:00am with light breakfast, coffee, and easy conversation to break the ice. By lunch, you’ll feel the beginnings of that warm, safe container we’ll build together—a space for trust, vulnerability, and expansion. In the afternoon, we’ll set intentions, dive into journaling, and prepare to release old beliefs. By evening, you’ll be gathered around the bonfire, letting the flames carry those stories away.

Friday: Let’s Get Transformative
Optional morning yoga and meditation ease us into the day. After breakfast, we’ll dig into new skills and tools designed to create lasting happiness. Lunch will be served on a gorgeous deck overlooking Michigan’s natural beauty—a moment to savor the peace and stillness. A mindful, quiet nature walk will help us integrate what we’ve uncovered.

Friday afternoon is all about excavation. What beliefs have been holding you back? Where are you ready to shift? Together, we’ll craft new, empowering beliefs to carry forward. The day winds down with open coaching and rich conversation around the fire. Picture this: cozy blankets, warm beverages, and meaningful moments that stay with you long after the retreat ends.

Saturday: Dive Deep, Rise Higher
This is the day for BIG transformation. Some of what we’ll do depends on the weather (Thank you, Michigan!), but here’s what I can promise: you’ll be guided through powerful, soul-stirring experiences that leave you feeling cracked open in the best way possible. By the end of the day, you’ll feel lighter, freer, and oh-so-alive.

Sunday: Gently Land Back in Your Life
We’ll close the weekend with a gentle integration practice, reflecting on all the magic and growth you’ve experienced. By 11:30am, you’ll be ready to step back into your life—not as the woman who arrived, but as the radiant, confident, and empowered YOU that you were always meant to be. And if you want to linger a bit longer for a solo nature walk or journaling, the property’s beauty is yours to enjoy until check-out at noon.

Why Now?

Because life is too short to settle for meh. Because you deserve more than the daily grind, the same-old patterns, or feeling like something’s missing. This retreat is your chance to stop waiting and start creating the life you love—now.

Spring in Michigan is pure magic: the fresh air, the blooming trees, the gentle warmth of the season. It’s the perfect time to shed what’s no longer serving you and step boldly into what’s next. Add in a group of supportive women, soulful practices, and a whole lot of joy, and you’ve got the recipe for a weekend you’ll never forget.

Who Is This For?

This retreat is for women who feel ready. Ready to:

• Break free from what’s been holding them back.

• Prioritize themselves and their happiness.

• Say yes to joy, connection, and transformation.

Whether you’re navigating a life transition, rediscovering yourself after years of putting others first, or simply craving more clarity and calm, this retreat is for you.

Ready to Join Us?

Spots are intentionally limited to keep our circle intimate and impactful, so don’t wait! This May, take the leap. Give yourself the gift of radiant happiness. You’re so worth it.

The Radiant Happiness Retreat
📍 Michigan | May 15-18, 2025
🌿 Release. Reconnect. Reignite.

Click here to book your spot now and save $250 on your deposit and the retreat! Good until 11:59pm on December 31st!

Your next chapter is waiting. Are you ready to turn the page?

Why Calm Matters - The Time Stress Broke My Brain

Did you know that high levels of stress actually damage brain cells? True story.

I remember a time when I was still married and living in the UK. I was intensely stressed. In an emotionally abusive marriage with a high-functioning alcoholic, looking like we were living “the” life, but living beyond our means in one of the most expensive places in the world. Sometimes the money ran out. All the way out.

One week, I had budgeted, made my list of essentials, and was doing the shopping with my 3 babes in tow. They were like young kids are, excitable and sometimes loud. It’s a challenge to keep 3 littles wrangled in a grocery store! 😵‍💫

My stress was palpable, but I was keeping my cool with them… I can’t remember if I’d started my no-yelling challenge yet, or not.

🔥I remember the heat rising in my body as I carefully calculated how much the necessities would add up to and the hard decisions between what I’d buy and what I’d have to cope through as I disappointed my kids with every “no, not this time.”

Finally, we got up to the register. One of them was probably crying; I know I was near tears from the bitter disappointment of my life.

In the UK, at least at the time, you inserted your chip card and you had to use a pin - there was no bypassing it.

😳 Suddenly, I stared at that pin pad, but no matter how hard I tried, I could not recall my pin number. It just wouldn’t come. I tried a few times, guessing, but the number just wasn’t there for me. My brain would not do its job.

Embarrassed, angry, and with 3 hungry and confused kids, I apologized to the cashier and the people behind me and left my groceries behind.

As I got my children settled into the car, an unbearable heaviness filled me. I sat in the car and cried and cried. Stress had broken my brain.

Can you relate?

It’s vital to our physical and mental health that we incorporate tools and techniques to help us calm ourselves down. Not just in one stressful moment, but regularly, so that our nervous system recognizes safety in calm and welcomes peace in the body.

At tomorrow's Radiant Happiness: 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm - A Free Masterclass we'll be practicing my favorite, free tool to move our bodies and minds from chaos to calm in just minutes. It's something that you'll get to take with you and utilize anytime anyplace and it's yours to keep. ✨

You still have time to register and join the 40 beautiful souls who are ready to take their first steps toward Radiant Happiness. ❤

#radianthappiness #masterclass #stress #calm #ease #wellbeing #peace #createalifeyoulovenow

Why Confidence Matters

I was judging myself for this photo and I was going to retake it before posting it to promote my Coffee Connections - In Person Meetup last week.

Spot the imperfection.

Right? Which one? Or what imperfection? It's all a matter of perspective, but your perspective matters because it's yours. It's the one you're living from.

For me, it was the lipstick on the mug. I didn't notice it until I'd opened the pic on my bigger desk monitor. I noticed my Inner Critic jump online and get to work, but I called its BS.

Lipstick on my mug makes this not good enough? Nonsense.Thanks for trying to protect me, but you're not needed now. I'm practicing embracing imperfection and showing up imperfectly, so this time, take the backseat because I'm driving.

This is the #Confidence piece of Radiant Happiness: 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm - A Free Masterclass that's coming up on Monday.

See, we can get clear on what we want life to look and feel like, but if we don't have the confidence, the deep inner belief, and trust in ourselves, then we won't be able to turn that vision into our reality. We have to learn how to tame our inner critic and get it working with us instead of against us.

It might seem trivial, but if we’re walking around allowing that overprotective bully to run the show we are missing out on so many opportunities! We’re not even aware of what we’re missing because we’re just avoiding anything that strikes the slightest fear or discomfort into our hearts. But it’s facing fear and being willing to get uncomfortable that helps us create our happiest, most radiant lives.

On Monday at 6pm EST, we’re going to meet that pesky, critical voice. We’ll courageously face it together, learn how it’s trying to help us and why it can hurt so much, and then we’ll learn a practice to help get it supporting us instead of sabotaging us. All we really have to do is get to know it.

Have you registered yet? Be sure to click through the Event Details to the Registration Link to make it official or DM me. You deserve to love yourself and your life!!

Did you miss it? Reach out for a complimentary coaching session to get you on your pathway to happiness!

Why Clarity Matters

Have you ever called to order take out and said, "Hey, just cook me up something good!" Or, closed your eyes and clicked blindly on your Amazon app, adding something, anything to your cart and just hoping for the best?

Of course not!!! How frustrating would that be for both parties! So, instead, when you place an order, you get specific. You get clear. You ask for what you want, you don't just cross your fingers and see what happens.

This kind of clarity matters in life, too. We are constantly creating. Look around you... what do you see? Is it a life you love? Or one that you're barely tolerating?

What order did you put into the Universe or God or whatever, if anything, you call it? Were you clear? Or maybe you've only been asking for what you DON'T want. Uh oh. Bet you've been getting more of it.

You see, we're constantly, but not always consciously, creating our life experience. Maybe because we never learned how so we've just been flinging wishes and hoping some of them land and come back to us.

When we learn how to consciously create, we learn to get clear and specific about what we want in our lives. We learn how to put our attention on those things so that we get more of them... whether it's peace and calm, deeper relationships, a bigger home, self-confidence, a work environment that feeds our creativity, etc...

You can have anything (humanly possible) in your life and only to the extent that you are clear on what that is.

At Radiant Happiness: 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm - A Free Masterclass, we'll begin this process of clarity so that you can be more purposeful in what you create in your life.

You deserve a life you love. Your desires are in your heart for a reason - they're waiting for you. You simply need to learn how to place your order so that what you want shows up.

#clarity #consciouscreation #manifestation #createalifeyoulovenow #freemasterclass #RadiantHappiness