Why Calm Matters - The Time Stress Broke My Brain

Did you know that high levels of stress actually damage brain cells? True story.

I remember a time when I was still married and living in the UK. I was intensely stressed. In an emotionally abusive marriage with a high-functioning alcoholic, looking like we were living “the” life, but living beyond our means in one of the most expensive places in the world. Sometimes the money ran out. All the way out.

One week, I had budgeted, made my list of essentials, and was doing the shopping with my 3 babes in tow. They were like young kids are, excitable and sometimes loud. It’s a challenge to keep 3 littles wrangled in a grocery store! 😵‍💫

My stress was palpable, but I was keeping my cool with them… I can’t remember if I’d started my no-yelling challenge yet, or not.

🔥I remember the heat rising in my body as I carefully calculated how much the necessities would add up to and the hard decisions between what I’d buy and what I’d have to cope through as I disappointed my kids with every “no, not this time.”

Finally, we got up to the register. One of them was probably crying; I know I was near tears from the bitter disappointment of my life.

In the UK, at least at the time, you inserted your chip card and you had to use a pin - there was no bypassing it.

😳 Suddenly, I stared at that pin pad, but no matter how hard I tried, I could not recall my pin number. It just wouldn’t come. I tried a few times, guessing, but the number just wasn’t there for me. My brain would not do its job.

Embarrassed, angry, and with 3 hungry and confused kids, I apologized to the cashier and the people behind me and left my groceries behind.

As I got my children settled into the car, an unbearable heaviness filled me. I sat in the car and cried and cried. Stress had broken my brain.

Can you relate?

It’s vital to our physical and mental health that we incorporate tools and techniques to help us calm ourselves down. Not just in one stressful moment, but regularly, so that our nervous system recognizes safety in calm and welcomes peace in the body.

At tomorrow's Radiant Happiness: 3 Keys to Cultivate Clarity, Confidence, & Calm - A Free Masterclass we'll be practicing my favorite, free tool to move our bodies and minds from chaos to calm in just minutes. It's something that you'll get to take with you and utilize anytime anyplace and it's yours to keep. ✨

You still have time to register and join the 40 beautiful souls who are ready to take their first steps toward Radiant Happiness. ❤

#radianthappiness #masterclass #stress #calm #ease #wellbeing #peace #createalifeyoulovenow

3 Words to Release from Your Vocabulary...

I love words. They're powerful. We create our internal and external experience through the words we use every day. I know this, so I'm picky with the words I choose to use and when working with clients, I help them see the weight they're adding to their shoulders and the commitments they're making to their future through the use of their language.

There are 3 words, specifically, that I invite you to release from your vocabulary starting right now.

Let's break it down.

Should - Please don't should on yourself. "Should" adds more pressure, more stress, and when used in reflection (as in, "what I should have done"), it creates an internal discord. The past is past. We can't change it and as Byron Katie says, "When we argue with reality, we lose, and only 100% of the time."

Instead of "should" use more empowering words like, "want," or for bonus points, "choose."

Feel the difference:

• I should be doing something productive!

• I want to be doing something productive.

• I choose to do something productive.

  Being at choice gives you the power, feels lighter, and allows you to take creative control of your life instead of weighing yourself down with shoulds.
  

Always & Never
The words “always” and “never” are commitments; promises to the future that disallow change. For example, “I always make the wrong choice,” or “I’m never good enough,” or “My relationships always fail, “or I never get what I want.”

We are always creating and the words we use are like our Amazon orders, but to the Universe. When we use always or never, we’re telling Source (or whatever you call it) that we want things to stay the same.

Instead, try to adopt more flexible language that allows for growth and change. For instance:

• "I often make thoughtful choices."

• "I'm improving my self-worth every day."

• "I'm learning to cultivate successful relationships."

• "I am open to receiving what I desire."

Notice how these statements shift your mindset from a fixed state to one of growth and potential. This opens the door for new opportunities and experiences to enter your life. You become a conscious creator, instead of an unconscious pattern-repeater. 

The words we choose influence our thoughts, emotions, and actions. By consciously selecting language that empowers us, we can transform our internal and external experiences, lighten our emotional load, and create a life aligned with our deepest desires and values; we can create a life we love now. 

Try noticing and replacing those 3 words with some of the suggestions above for a week or two. Pay attention to how you feel as you do so. Notice what changes or unfolds in your life - your energy, your mood, even changes in your relationships.

Words are magical and every word is a choice. Make yours wisely.

#language #consciouscreation #createalifeyoulovenow #coaching #wellbeing #authenticpositivity #radianthappiness

Attention Overwhelmed and Unhappy People!

Are you feeling unhappy and overwhelmed? You want to love life, but there’s too much stress and too many people who are asking for more each and every day?

We all want to be happier and did you know that greater happiness doesn’t just feel better, but that happier people actually sleep better, live an average of 9-years longer, and make around a million dollars more over the course of their lifetime than their unhappier counterparts? 

Unhappiness is an epidemic, but the good news is that science has actually cracked the happiness code and so have I! We now know what it takes to be happier and I’ve supported hundreds of people using this process to cultivate lasting happiness in their lives and I want to share it with you. 

Our happiness impacts every aspect of our lives!Imagine what your life will feel like when you feel better in your body, you’re more purposeful  in your work, and you’re enjoying deeper, more fulfilling relationships? 

Ready for greater happiness? Register here: https://tinyurl.com/AuthenticHappiness2023

In this free Masterclass - Authentic Happiness - 3 Keys to Creating Greater Happiness from the Inside Out! I’ll share the structure that I’ve created, used for myself to move from misery to being one of the happiest people I know, and that I’ve utilized to coach hundreds of people into greater happiness. You’ll

• Lay the foundation for authentic happiness,

• Rediscover what makes you feel alive, and

• Practice strategies to teach you your full body aligned 'yes' and 'no'

  so that you can start to fall in love with your life.

  
  Register now to attend: https://tinyurl.com/AuthenticHappiness2023
  
  Register to attend:
  *** You must click the link to register to attend, in advance! Be sure to register through the link today! https://tinyurl.com/AuthenticHappiness2023

Practical Happiness - 3 Keys to Easily Lower Your Stress & Up-Level Your Joy! (Replay) A Free Masterclass!

Yesterday, I hosted a free, 90-minute Masterclass and it was so much fun and jam-packed with value, that I’m offering the replay free for the entire month of December. At first, I was only going to share it for the weekend, but now, more than ever, we need the skills of happiness.

That’s why I call it “Practical Happiness.” It’s all about practicing skills until they become habits and then our way of being - which we requires that we continue to practice.

So, as my gift to you, please enjoy this Masterclass. I would be grateful if you’d like and share it, and even subscribe to my YouTube Channels for more fun conversations and encouragement.

My podcast can be found here and my personal channel here.

Free, Virtual Masterclass with Tamara Zoner.

After you’ve watched it, share your biggest takeaway! Then, if you’re ready to up-level your life, join me on the Deep Dive!